I recently watched Aziz Ansari’s stand-up comedy special and was surprised. It was kind of funny, but I found it a bit deep. Aziz was hilarious as Tom Haverford, a shallow, whiny, annoying, and lazy employee on Parks and Recreation. This side of Aziz was a bit different; he was analyzing life, love, relationships, and awkward situations. One topic jumped out at me. Aziz was discussing how people today do not like to make decisions. He said, (not verbatim), “We are a generation of shitty people. We never want to make plans or commit to anything because we are always worried that we will miss something better. We are constantly worried that we are giving up on the best possible option”. I thought this was very insightful.
No longer do we call up a friend, invite them to lunch, set a time and date, show up on time, and truly spend time with that person. Now, the process is setting an idea out there, that we may get together, sometime in the near future. Or, we maybe are up to having a night on the town, but we won’t be completely sure until 5 minutes before we are ready to leave. And, if two people do get together, there are a lots of pictures taken…of the place and food.
What happened to going somewhere and truly enjoying it? Let us attempt to look at things without the lens of a camera. Yes, it is always nice to capture those special moments, but I believe that we are so caught up trying to capture the amazing points in our life that we miss them! Make memories and quit worrying about the filter you are going to use on your Instagram.
More and more we are seeing signs on restaurants telling us to put our phones down, and talk to one another. I also read an article about the change in restaurant service since the birth of smartphones. There was a survey done that compared the quality of food, service, and experience in the year 2001 to an evaluation done in 2010 by examining video footage. Sending food back, stating there was poor service, and the overall experience of the restaurant all were factors that were higher in 2010 than it was in 2001. The video footage showed more people taking several pictures of themselves and their entrees for several minutes, causing the food to get cold, making the patrons send the food back. It showed people so engrossed in their phones that they did not even acknowledge a server coming up to them to make sure their experience was going well; this resulted in low scores poor service and restaurant experience.
I am not suggesting that everyone goes off the grid and banishes technology from their lives. The use of technology is a major part of our lives, making everything more streamline and readily available. I am simply suggesting that we cut down a little. Save some special memories for yourself instead of sharing it with the entire social media circus. Go on excursions that will make new stories and memories without worrying about what you could potentially be missing. Focus on the now and devote yourself to being a great listener, an enthusiastic participant, and a welcomed conversationalist! Live life for yourself and the ones you love.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”