For most, life is not easy. It is filled with heartache, disappointment, failure, sadness, and obstacles. However, life also provides love, success, fulfillment, happiness, and relief. Life is what you make it.
Sociology will prove that life is a unification of genetics and environment; a combination of nature and nurture. While this may be true, I believe that an individual’s life is theirs to control. Our choices reflect the life we will have. It is true; some of our choices are made for us, without our consent. Though that may be, how we choose to handle the consequences of those choices define our character. Life will continue to throw you curve balls, but the way you handle that pitch determines the outcome.
I used to plan everything out. I was supposed to attend college, become a doctor, establish my career, get married, have kids, and live happily ever after. Simple enough, right? Well, that is not how things played out. Now, at an age where more are established in their careers, I am going back to school, working to attain a more stable life. I have learned to accept what you cannot change and work to change what you are able to. No one tells you that you will encounter death, miscarriage, unemployment, eviction, money problems, malfunctioning cars, destroyed homes, natural disasters, break-ups, and failures. This is life’s fine print. Now, it is not all depressing. There is light at the end of the tunnel! The key is perseverance. Pushing through all the bad, doing all you can to overcome the pain, heartache and frustration is what makes you a better person. The most important lessons are learned through the toughest problems.
Too many times, I have seen people experience a life change, one that was unplanned or unexpected, and then do nothing. Complaining will not change your life. You have to take action. Don’t want to live with parents? Work toward getting your own place. Unhappy at your job? Find ways to improve it or look for another. Want the finer things in life? Sacrifice things you can do without and save for the things you want. Make an effort to be better, to do better. Find happiness in what you do have and celebrate life’s joys that you are able to experience. Whether it is for the betterment of yourself, your family, or others, it is important to place effort to strive for improvement.
The quote above by John Quincy Adams is one of those perfect truths. Life will always be difficult in some way, but if a person is patient and persistent, those difficulties will fade away and eventually disappear. All that will remain is a path that leads to your dream. Never give up. Push on and go get what you really want. Persevere.